Even thinking about kissing turns us on! Proof: reading a romance novel or watching
a ‘chick flick’.  We’re there, and we FEEL IT!

So, let’s talk about Taking Care Of Lips…
ESPECIALLY for Women Over 50:

*As we age, our lip line seems to get more faint… every day! So to prevent the
‘Lips Without Margins’ look, most of us need to use lipliner (me included).
*Are you using the same shade of lipstick as you did, 10 or 20 years ago?
Maybe you should try a new shade.
*AND how recently did you whiten your teeth? Yellow teeth makes our smile look dirty!
You don’t need a $500 visit to the dentist. Most dentists sell  professional whitening
strips. They’re a little more than the drugstore kind… but the results are amazing!
*Most important: use a daily wrinkle cream on your lips and surrounding area.
*AND, we sure don’t want to see our lipstick bleed into the cracks around out mouth!
Try a no-bleed lipstick cream or liner.

SOLUTION: Run, don’t walk, to your nearest cosmetic counter and try… try… TRY!
Try on all that you can. The gals working at each counter are professional and they
know the how to help you. Ask questions and take your time.

By the way: women have been coloring their lips for centuries!
WHY? To draw attention to one of the most sensual parts of our body.

Let’s start a fact-finding trail:
Pls. comment and let us know what works best for you.
We can learn from each other!

Many Blissful Wishes,
Rebecca
PS: EXTRA TIP
Using lipstick colors in purple/blue  shade make your teeth appear whiter!
Stay away from shades in the brown/yellow color. Try, and you’ll see.

Are you applying the same makeup you’ve used for 20 years?
Same hairstyle… same clothing styles?

Let’s start with makeup: as we age, there’s one thing we should never use…FACE POWDER! Why?
The fine powder may camouflage discoloration in your face, but it also clings to the lines and wrinkles,
especially in the laugh lines around your eyes and mouth.

This makes the finer lines look like crack in the sidewalk. And the deeper lines look like the
Grand Canyon! Using face powder after 50 is the easy way to appear older than you really are.

HERE’S WHAT TO DO:

*After applying your face powder, look in the mirror… then smile! What do you see?
*Better yet, move closer to the mirror… suprised? Imagine, this is how you look to anyone who gets
close… a snuggle maybe?
*With all the cosmetic counters available… take some time and let the pros show you alternatives
to face powder. Yes, they will want to sell you something. But when you discuss your concerns, then
they will do their best to make a happy customer, and show you their expertise.  And remember,
you don’t need to buy… at least not in that moment.

My Recommendation:
Make an appointment at a cosmetic counter. Tell them you want a daytime look or an evening look.
THEN… capture the comments from friends and family. And notice how your self-confidence gets
a boost.

And let us know your thoughts by adding a post to this blog.
We can learn from each other!

FYI: this is the first in a series: “A LESSON IN CREATING YOUR LOOK”

Well, if you truly are not enjoying yourself and not looking forward to the coming year…
then it’s time to invent your own TRADITION! And since it’s customary for women to run
around doing for others, then treat yourself and make this truly a tradition just for you alone.

*So what makes you feel good… puts spring in your step? Do it!
*Get a gift for yourself / wrap it up to open on a certain day at a certain time.
*Gather blankets, towels, food and toys to take to a ‘no-kill’ shelter in your city.
If you stay and play… you might just take a fuzzy little fellow home with you!
*Wrap yourself in love and passion… the best gift to give to yourself.

My personal tradition: get new pajamas for Christmas Eve, go to bed with hot cocoa
and a movie. That’s it! And if we have guests to spend the night, then we ALL get new
pajamas, and enjoy our hot cocoa together to ‘A Christmas Story.’

For those of you who celebrate Christmas… Merry Christmas to All!
And for those of you who have other holidays and traditions to celebrate,
let’s all join together in spirit and wish all a most glorious holiday season
and peace on earth!

… Rebecca

*Whip up a decadent mug of hot cocoa.
*Enjoy this treat as a celebration of sensual taste and the simple seduction of  yourself.
*Especially whip up this delight for a lover’s tryst: just quiet time together.

This wintertime favorite increases blood flow to all parts of your body. AND, can
be a definite ‘Libido Booster’!

How To Make A Chocolate Lover’s Cocoa Delight:
*DON’T use artificial chocolate, like the goo we drip onto ice cream.
*DO use real cocoa. You may find at your supermarket. Or go to specialty gourmet food
shops. Or search the internet. It’s worth it and so are YOU!
*If you want to cut calories(just a little) you can use ‘lite’ milk, or you can use the heavy
milk… just cut with a little water. However, follow the directions on the box.
*Top off with small, organic marshmallows… and a small, thin, candy cane. Or, get
inventive: a mint leaf, or add a few spirits! You could invent your own specialty.

Bliss Note: make this a special project and do some research. It’s important to get the
best cocoa for your taste. If you’ve never had the ‘real stuff’, then this is truly a treat.
Even the anticipation of making something so special and decadent as a mug of this
cocoa delicacy is arousing in itself.

TRY IT! And tell us if the aphrodisiac afficionados are correct:
Sipping Hot Cocoa DOES  Boost Your Libido!
CHEERS!

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy and
hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy, stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect:
Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your ’steamy, sexy, and stimulating’ self to
the supermarket just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual
and how that translates into passion & desire.

FACT:
*BEING SENSUAL means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’
Your senses being: SOUND, SIGHT, TASTE, TOUCH and SMELL.

For a woman, this pretty much says it all. We ARE the sensual sex and ARE in one
with Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch and Smell. Also, note: you don’t hear of a man referred
to as being sensual. As I like to do, let’s take shoes as an example: notice women in a
shoe department and then notice a man. Totally different approach. So what about the
differences in the senses involved?

Women love the colors, design, and materials. Further…we twist, turn and prance just to
feel the shoe and see how it looks on our foot. This is definitely a sensual
experience for women.

What does this have to do with our passion and desire?

FACT:
*When we wear this shoe, our mind and our fantasy changes according to how we
perceive ourselves in this shoe.
*A fashionable, sexy-looking shoe… makes us feel sexy.
*A sporty, comfort shoe makes us feel athletic, sporty… but maybe not so sexy.

THEY SAY: women are mysterious and difficult to understand.
But when you unleash your sensual side just with a shoe, then you can easily see how you
can go from feeling sexy to feeling athletic. So by this simple example, you can see how
your senses can lead you into passion and desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*When you wear different shoes and clothes, pay attention to your changed attitude.
*Depending on your look, how do you feel or act?

Ladies: being sensual is about the way you feel… NOT about positions.
That’s for later!

Here’s an example of how this works:

‘Seducing Yourself’ is ‘taking yourself away…away from the mundane…away from your
current situation into a sensual fantasy…in your ‘Mind’s Playground.’

*A friend of mine lost her corporate job and is now working at home. She was
depressed, sickly, ate too much junk food…even passed the days calling, connecting
with placement services, worrying and crying. And worse: she didn’t even get out of
her pajamas!

THEN: she decided to get a hold of herself and came up with a plan:

*She started getting up at the same time every morning, showered and dressed as if she
were reporting to a management job. She stopped doing laundry and cleaning house
during the day (in between making calls and working.)

*Since then (it took about 2 weeks)…she’s happier with a whole new attitude,
confident in attending networking functions, and she expects to see some

money flowing in soon.

*AND: she says she even feels more alive and sexy!
Honestly, this is exactly what she said. Which reaffirms that feeling sexy and the
mind are really connected!

SEDUCTION: This woman transported herself from frumpy and hopeless into a
self-confident, independent woman. She thinks this corporate ‘boot out the door’ was a
blessing! Imagine!

HOW DOES THIS WORK: by going into her ‘Mind’s Playground’, she started
living her fantasy, her desire. Now, she is thinking about getting out socially and
even dating again.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
How can you ’seduce yourself’ today?
It all starts with a desire which morphs into a decision.
Go For It!

Pls. comment and tell us how you ’seduce yourself’.

Imagine that! Beautiful, Sensual Models over 50…

Yes! Fashion models in all ages represent reality and we thank London designer
Joanna Sykes for blazing the trail and shaking the fashion industry to it’s core!
It’s about time…let’s watch to see if other designers follow.

About Joanna Sykes: a young, London designer who has had her own label for about
2 years.

About her label, SYKES: simply said, her line is ‘beautiful basics in beautiful fabrics.’
No wonder she is showing models over 50 wearing her designs. Finally someone is
designing clothes for US!

We all need to keep our eye on Joanna Sykes. I’m looking forward to seeing her ads.

If you know where you can find the SYKES label in your area…
pls. post a comment.

But if you or your partner, or both…have been conditioned
to expect climax and orgasm, then no wonder you’re not
coming to grips with the tender mysteries and adventure
of the journey.

So you think having an orgasm is required…like passing
a test? Let’s be sensible:
*The magazine tells us we should have sex several times per week.
*In fact, if we don’t crave sex…we’re no longer sexy(they say).
*We should be salacious and wanton. Go look it up…I did!

Making love is not an Olympic feat. There’s no time limit, no rules,
and no winner!

Obviously something happens after the early formative years and NOW! We develop
a competitive nature, and the need to perform as in our youth. Or at least live up to
what we think is expected. But why do we take this thinking into our bed, into our
relationships, into our most passionate moments?

This only leads to judgement of our partner and mostly ourselves…if we’re the one not
reaching orgasm. Lots of heartache ahead if you don’t lighten up to think and act in
a more loving way.

THE SOLUTION:
Just be considerate and enjoy pleasing each other. And if one goes to orgasm
and the other doesn’t, why should it matter? Don’t let this special time together evolve
into a sport, a game…with a tally at the end.

Remember, it’s not about winning.
Making love is about sharing, feeling, and enjoying
the magical moments together.

Do you agree?
Pass it along…

I’m using Ingrid’s photo to make a point. Something we all
can relate to: Our Eyes Have Feeling!

When looking at a picture of Ingrid, I immediately make the
‘aawww’ sound and feel all warm and cuddly. It’s just like
Ingrid is right next to me. And then I think of her cold, wet
nose / how she waits anxiously by my refrigerator door for
a dollop of yogurt / the warmth of her big ol’ head resting on my lap. I’m even smiling
as I write this for you. (I can even smell her, but I won’t go further.)

How do you feel when you see your baby(your pet), or grandchild, OR when you
see a photo of someone or something you don’t like at all? I call this ‘eye touch’.
Our emotions immediately come to the surface…both good or bad, loving or disgusting
and all other feelings in between.

We don’t just SEE with our eyes.

We FEEL with our eyes.
And this is why the long gaze of flirting can be playfully romantic or a
sexual overture.

Isn’t our sensual side pretty incredible?
Let your feelings flow…the good ones.
And ‘yes’, experiencing your senses = feelings and emotion, leading to
your passion and desire.

STOP right now!
Look at a photo…how do you feel?
Continue to explore your ‘eye touch’ and unlock your emotions.
If you journal: make note of your feelings when you see
*Different colors
*Your Mother
*Yourself in the morning
*Your lover
*Romantic picture
*A piece of cake
*keep on going…

Now,isn’t that funny…living with someone,
sleeping together for years and years, dressing
together(well, maybe not), and just the thought of an affair with your own
husband makes you blush! Kinda cute, don’t you think?

Let’s cut to the chase: plan a fling with your spouse, have fun, learn to tease
again. This has the makings of YOU seducing yourself with your own sensual
foreplay. Yes, that’s it! Just by planning this rendezvous,
it’s like seducing yourself.

As you plan the time, place, and start thinking of what you’ll wear, or not…
this is the foreplay that starts that tingling down there. The anticipation,

the touching, how wonderful to feel sexy again!

Here’s a thought: get some great underwear…but for your affair, we’ll call it
lingerie. Try a lacy thong for you and a G-string for him. And for the sake of
this occasion, we’ll spell affair the French way: AFFAIRE!

Since we’re speaking French, we need food: appetizers, wine or juice, finger
food(get it)? Have a picnic in bed. Don’t worry about the crumbs, silly you.
It’s worth it!

You know, when we’re over 50, we need more than just sex. And most of all,
we need foreplay. So, don’t leave the all the foreplay to your partner. After all,
our mind is our PLAYGROUND. And we can creat foreplay when
ever we want just by our thoughts.

Start planning your affair today. Enjoy the seduction.
And if you want, share some of your ideas with us.
If so, pls. comment…