The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy and
hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy, stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect:
Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your ’steamy, sexy, and stimulating’ self to
the supermarket just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual
and how that translates into passion & desire.

FACT:
*BEING SENSUAL means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’
Your senses being: SOUND, SIGHT, TASTE, TOUCH and SMELL.

For a woman, this pretty much says it all. We ARE the sensual sex and ARE in one
with Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch and Smell. Also, note: you don’t hear of a man referred
to as being sensual. As I like to do, let’s take shoes as an example: notice women in a
shoe department and then notice a man. Totally different approach. So what about the
differences in the senses involved?

Women love the colors, design, and materials. Further…we twist, turn and prance just to
feel the shoe and see how it looks on our foot. This is definitely a sensual
experience for women.

What does this have to do with our passion and desire?

FACT:
*When we wear this shoe, our mind and our fantasy changes according to how we
perceive ourselves in this shoe.
*A fashionable, sexy-looking shoe… makes us feel sexy.
*A sporty, comfort shoe makes us feel athletic, sporty… but maybe not so sexy.

THEY SAY: women are mysterious and difficult to understand.
But when you unleash your sensual side just with a shoe, then you can easily see how you
can go from feeling sexy to feeling athletic. So by this simple example, you can see how
your senses can lead you into passion and desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*When you wear different shoes and clothes, pay attention to your changed attitude.
*Depending on your look, how do you feel or act?

Ladies: being sensual is about the way you feel… NOT about positions.
That’s for later!

Here’s an example of how this works:

‘Seducing Yourself’ is ‘taking yourself away…away from the mundane…away from your
current situation into a sensual fantasy…in your ‘Mind’s Playground.’

*A friend of mine lost her corporate job and is now working at home. She was
depressed, sickly, ate too much junk food…even passed the days calling, connecting
with placement services, worrying and crying. And worse: she didn’t even get out of
her pajamas!

THEN: she decided to get a hold of herself and came up with a plan:

*She started getting up at the same time every morning, showered and dressed as if she
were reporting to a management job. She stopped doing laundry and cleaning house
during the day (in between making calls and working.)

*Since then (it took about 2 weeks)…she’s happier with a whole new attitude,
confident in attending networking functions, and she expects to see some

money flowing in soon.

*AND: she says she even feels more alive and sexy!
Honestly, this is exactly what she said. Which reaffirms that feeling sexy and the
mind are really connected!

SEDUCTION: This woman transported herself from frumpy and hopeless into a
self-confident, independent woman. She thinks this corporate ‘boot out the door’ was a
blessing! Imagine!

HOW DOES THIS WORK: by going into her ‘Mind’s Playground’, she started
living her fantasy, her desire. Now, she is thinking about getting out socially and
even dating again.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
How can you ’seduce yourself’ today?
It all starts with a desire which morphs into a decision.
Go For It!

Pls. comment and tell us how you ’seduce yourself’.

First, you need to know
the true meaning of ’seduction’: taking yourself away…
‘Seduction’ does NOT have to be about SEX!
But can be the bridge to your passion and desire.

So, what can you do to ‘take  yourself away?’

*Maybe you put on your ’soft clothes’, make a great cup of coffee with real cream and
snuggle into bed to crack open that novel you’ve been pining to read.

*Seduction can be a trip to the bookstore…going to a shoe sale…taking your dog to the
dog park…treating yourself to a facial…watching your favorite movie, again.

*Or taking yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant.

When you make time to ’seduce  yourself’,
it’s like an injection of loving yourself.
And you have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another. And when you
love yourself, you become a love magnet. This is your foreplay to rev-up your passion and
desire.

So what did you do to Seduce Yourself Today?
Pay attention to your sensual feelings and open up your emotions.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Choose 2 things you can do for yourself…and enjoy.
*Watching an old movie does it for me.
OR, reading in a quiet place with a cup of tea.
The chance for quiet relaxation, taking me out of my normal routine with no noise
really changes my mood. If I get a phone call, the person on the other end always
comments on how differently I sound. No kidding!

*So, what can you do to seduce yourself?
*And notice how you feel before, during and after.

Pls. comment and let us know how you Seduce Yourself.

It’s normal, as as we age our sexual driving force does diminish
somewhat in both men and women. And while we navigate the
emotional and physical challenges of marriage and relationships…
there is one genuine solution:

Emotional Intimacy…the glue that binds!

This emotional bonding withstands all, even when you think
you’re beyond physical attraction and sexual satisfaction.

The 5 Pillars of Emotional Intimacy:

#1: LISTEN
Really listen…don’t just brush off the words of conversation. Perhaps your partner is looking for
a hug or compassion. If you listen deeply, you tap into the hidden feelings behind the words.

#2: BE CONSIDERATE
Just be nice! Show respect for each other. Interesting about men: when they think their partner
isn’t nice to them, they sometimes go to another woman who they think is ‘nice.’
Women, however, react differently. We shut down, and put-up! Women generally become

depressed and secluded.

#3: APPRECIATION
Never underestimate the power of saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Think of all the ways you
really appreciate your lover. Remember, what you give…you get!

#4: COMPROMISE
A relationship does not thrive on dominance. Compromise means balance! When you achieve
this, you’ll enjoy a life of living and loving.

#5: DREAM ON
Support each other’s dreams. Especially for women over 50: dreams fuel passion and desire.
Don’t hold each other back. Go back to school, build an ecology safe house, take up a hobbie
…chase that rainbow! Don’t give up your dreams.

Without EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, relationships fall apart and you could be destined to
enduring your remaining years with regret and loneliness.
Emotional Intimacy is the glue that binds and puts the fire in your passion and sexual desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Incorporate ALL 5 Pillars of Emotional Intimacy into your daily life.
*Note how your effort changes the dynamic of your marriage and your own attitude.
*Expect your partner to reciprocate. If not…then it’s time to have a serious talk.

This caught my eye and made me crazy!
The headline on the cover, “ARE YOU DRESSING YOUR AGE?”

(This is refers to a story inside MORE magazine-October 2009 issue.)

And the woman in this story is Barbara Newman, 55, who is transformed by the famous
Tim Gunn from her vibrant, energetic look into an older-looking lady in high heels. And
this is why I must write to you…

As you may know, I’ve been in the fashion industry for over 33yrs. Within this time, I’ve
seen women come to own their own individual fashion space. And I’m proud to say I
helped spearhead this along. You see, in the late seventies I coined the phrase,
‘Dressing for Lifestyle and NOT Age!’

Frankly, I thought Barbara Newman(p.48) looked great in her BEFORE outfit
(except for her bag.) I’m a little jealous because this ‘before look’ is the way I would dress…
if I had the body! I don’t, so I won’t.

I find this article ridiculous. And the fact(p.52) she’s wearing sandals which look to
be minimum 3″ heel height is laughable. And why? Here’s the caption, “A heel that’s
comfortable, fun and stylish”. I disagree, unless you just sit and don’t walk.

Shoes are my expertise and fit for comfort and lifestyle are primary

elements for selecting the right style for you! I personally cannot wear high heels…
so I’m sensitive to this issue.

NOTE: my Mother was a petite, cute, little lady with great legs. The gene pool missed me
in this regard. Mom wore leggings with blazers and/or long sweaters, blouses(with flats)
until she was 88. She looked fantastic, and was ‘fashion-comfortable’…her low-heeled
shoes helped her walk easy and looked good capping off her great legs!

(I wonder if Tim Gunn would put her into a dowdy, granny dress with a shawl.)

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*What is your Lifestyle-Look?
If you don’t have one, then think about how to dress to fit your personality and lifestyle.

*Look at your stockpile of clothes and accessories.
You may need to ‘detox your closet’.

*Take a good look at your shoes / try them on for the following reasons:
If they’re not comfortable…disgard!
Analyze if they work with your lifestyle.

*When you buy new shoes:
if they’re not comfortable in the store, then DON’T BUY!
Don’t get hypnotized by a bargain price, or wishful thinking that your feet will shrink.
It is a fallacy that shoes will loosen after wearing. Don’t waste your money or your feet.

So, do YOU dress for your Age, or Your Lifestyle?
Frankly, I don’t know how to dress for age, unless you’re a newborn.

But this article convinces me to take a long look at my clothes.
I need to do some purging.

PS: Dressing for your age has nothing to do with ANYTHING!
It’s your personality, attitude and genuine passion that makes a woman
GLOW…at any age. Our clothing(decoration) only adds to our persona and makes a
statement on how we live and feel in that moment. Our AGE isn’t even in the equation.
So, Love Your MAGNIFICENCE!

Do you have thoughts to share?
Pls comment…

Our internal monologue is part of our ’self.’ We don’t
even realize we have this continual, negative conversation
going on…chatter…chatter…chatter…

Especially for Women Over 50: Pay attention! Just listen to yourself! Do
you realize what you’re doing? This negative self-talk is ruining your life!

Eliminating this self-talk can actually make you feel sexy and desired again.
You’ll develop new passions and feel in love. Sure, it’s easy to say. But, convincing
yourself this actually works, can be difficult.

The best way is by a negative self-talk example:
*Another crappy day…I’m tired already.
*Got to do 50 curnches or my fat gut will fall to my knees.
Doesn’t do any good…a waste of time.
*I look fat anyway…so who cares?
*I never follow through. No wonder I look hideous!

Here’s an example of positive self-talk:

*Well, it’s another day…got to do my crunches before coffee.
*OH, so coffe’s my reward AND a tighter gut!
*WOW! I have a little color in my cheeks…looks good.
*Doesn’t take much time…I’ll add leg lifts tomorrow.
*And I’ll download some Latin music so I can crunch to the beat!

When you nix the negative self-talk:
You’re on the receiving end of the Grandest Love of ALL:
LOVING YOURSELF!

AND when you love yourself, you’re like a magnet. Flood gates open and you’ll
attract the romance, mystery, dreams and desire that you deserve.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
*Pay attention to your internal dialogue.
*How often do you catch yourself internalizing negative talk, about yourself?
*Each time, turn your negative self-talk into a positive statement.
*Negative self-talk is like a bad habit. STOP IT!