Well, if you truly are not enjoying yourself and not looking forward to the coming year…
then it’s time to invent your own TRADITION! And since it’s customary for women to run
around doing for others, then treat yourself and make this truly a tradition just for you alone.

*So what makes you feel good… puts spring in your step? Do it!
*Get a gift for yourself / wrap it up to open on a certain day at a certain time.
*Gather blankets, towels, food and toys to take to a ‘no-kill’ shelter in your city.
If you stay and play… you might just take a fuzzy little fellow home with you!
*Wrap yourself in love and passion… the best gift to give to yourself.

My personal tradition: get new pajamas for Christmas Eve, go to bed with hot cocoa
and a movie. That’s it! And if we have guests to spend the night, then we ALL get new
pajamas, and enjoy our hot cocoa together to ‘A Christmas Story.’

For those of you who celebrate Christmas… Merry Christmas to All!
And for those of you who have other holidays and traditions to celebrate,
let’s all join together in spirit and wish all a most glorious holiday season
and peace on earth!

… Rebecca

*Whip up a decadent mug of hot cocoa.
*Enjoy this treat as a celebration of sensual taste and the simple seduction of  yourself.
*Especially whip up this delight for a lover’s tryst: just quiet time together.

This wintertime favorite increases blood flow to all parts of your body. AND, can
be a definite ‘Libido Booster’!

How To Make A Chocolate Lover’s Cocoa Delight:
*DON’T use artificial chocolate, like the goo we drip onto ice cream.
*DO use real cocoa. You may find at your supermarket. Or go to specialty gourmet food
shops. Or search the internet. It’s worth it and so are YOU!
*If you want to cut calories(just a little) you can use ‘lite’ milk, or you can use the heavy
milk… just cut with a little water. However, follow the directions on the box.
*Top off with small, organic marshmallows… and a small, thin, candy cane. Or, get
inventive: a mint leaf, or add a few spirits! You could invent your own specialty.

Bliss Note: make this a special project and do some research. It’s important to get the
best cocoa for your taste. If you’ve never had the ‘real stuff’, then this is truly a treat.
Even the anticipation of making something so special and decadent as a mug of this
cocoa delicacy is arousing in itself.

TRY IT! And tell us if the aphrodisiac afficionados are correct:
Sipping Hot Cocoa DOES  Boost Your Libido!
CHEERS!

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy
and hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect: Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your
’steamy, sexy and stimulating’ self to the supermarket… just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual and how that translates into
passion and desire:

FACT: Being sensual means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’ Your senses being:
Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch, and Smell. And when you’re experiencing your senses,
then for some reason… you have an indescribable GLOW! This has been explained
as a ‘love magnet.’

You don’t believe me? When you’re all enthusiastic about something like a hobby or
your pet, relive how you feel and act when you’re in the flow of that experience.

This is what you do: You smile, talk excitedly, your eyes generally get larger as you’re
talking, you might gesture with your hands.

This is what SENSUAL is, and it’s true: when you learn how to tap into your sensual side
on a recurring basis… sure enough your passion and desire increased and feeling
sexy is the outcome.

For me, it’s color, fabrics, design, decorating, connecting with people. My first choice
of a sensual place to be is a fabric store!

*So, what brings out your sensual side?
Pls. comment and tell us.

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy and
hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy, stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect:
Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your ’steamy, sexy, and stimulating’ self to
the supermarket just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual
and how that translates into passion & desire.

FACT:
*BEING SENSUAL means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’
Your senses being: SOUND, SIGHT, TASTE, TOUCH and SMELL.

For a woman, this pretty much says it all. We ARE the sensual sex and ARE in one
with Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch and Smell. Also, note: you don’t hear of a man referred
to as being sensual. As I like to do, let’s take shoes as an example: notice women in a
shoe department and then notice a man. Totally different approach. So what about the
differences in the senses involved?

Women love the colors, design, and materials. Further…we twist, turn and prance just to
feel the shoe and see how it looks on our foot. This is definitely a sensual
experience for women.

What does this have to do with our passion and desire?

FACT:
*When we wear this shoe, our mind and our fantasy changes according to how we
perceive ourselves in this shoe.
*A fashionable, sexy-looking shoe… makes us feel sexy.
*A sporty, comfort shoe makes us feel athletic, sporty… but maybe not so sexy.

THEY SAY: women are mysterious and difficult to understand.
But when you unleash your sensual side just with a shoe, then you can easily see how you
can go from feeling sexy to feeling athletic. So by this simple example, you can see how
your senses can lead you into passion and desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*When you wear different shoes and clothes, pay attention to your changed attitude.
*Depending on your look, how do you feel or act?

Ladies: being sensual is about the way you feel… NOT about positions.
That’s for later!

Here’s an example of how this works:

‘Seducing Yourself’ is ‘taking yourself away…away from the mundane…away from your
current situation into a sensual fantasy…in your ‘Mind’s Playground.’

*A friend of mine lost her corporate job and is now working at home. She was
depressed, sickly, ate too much junk food…even passed the days calling, connecting
with placement services, worrying and crying. And worse: she didn’t even get out of
her pajamas!

THEN: she decided to get a hold of herself and came up with a plan:

*She started getting up at the same time every morning, showered and dressed as if she
were reporting to a management job. She stopped doing laundry and cleaning house
during the day (in between making calls and working.)

*Since then (it took about 2 weeks)…she’s happier with a whole new attitude,
confident in attending networking functions, and she expects to see some

money flowing in soon.

*AND: she says she even feels more alive and sexy!
Honestly, this is exactly what she said. Which reaffirms that feeling sexy and the
mind are really connected!

SEDUCTION: This woman transported herself from frumpy and hopeless into a
self-confident, independent woman. She thinks this corporate ‘boot out the door’ was a
blessing! Imagine!

HOW DOES THIS WORK: by going into her ‘Mind’s Playground’, she started
living her fantasy, her desire. Now, she is thinking about getting out socially and
even dating again.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
How can you ’seduce yourself’ today?
It all starts with a desire which morphs into a decision.
Go For It!

Pls. comment and tell us how you ’seduce yourself’.

First, you need to know
the true meaning of ’seduction’: taking yourself away…
‘Seduction’ does NOT have to be about SEX!
But can be the bridge to your passion and desire.

So, what can you do to ‘take  yourself away?’

*Maybe you put on your ’soft clothes’, make a great cup of coffee with real cream and
snuggle into bed to crack open that novel you’ve been pining to read.

*Seduction can be a trip to the bookstore…going to a shoe sale…taking your dog to the
dog park…treating yourself to a facial…watching your favorite movie, again.

*Or taking yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant.

When you make time to ’seduce  yourself’,
it’s like an injection of loving yourself.
And you have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another. And when you
love yourself, you become a love magnet. This is your foreplay to rev-up your passion and
desire.

So what did you do to Seduce Yourself Today?
Pay attention to your sensual feelings and open up your emotions.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Choose 2 things you can do for yourself…and enjoy.
*Watching an old movie does it for me.
OR, reading in a quiet place with a cup of tea.
The chance for quiet relaxation, taking me out of my normal routine with no noise
really changes my mood. If I get a phone call, the person on the other end always
comments on how differently I sound. No kidding!

*So, what can you do to seduce yourself?
*And notice how you feel before, during and after.

Pls. comment and let us know how you Seduce Yourself.

Imagine that! Beautiful, Sensual Models over 50…

Yes! Fashion models in all ages represent reality and we thank London designer
Joanna Sykes for blazing the trail and shaking the fashion industry to it’s core!
It’s about time…let’s watch to see if other designers follow.

About Joanna Sykes: a young, London designer who has had her own label for about
2 years.

About her label, SYKES: simply said, her line is ‘beautiful basics in beautiful fabrics.’
No wonder she is showing models over 50 wearing her designs. Finally someone is
designing clothes for US!

We all need to keep our eye on Joanna Sykes. I’m looking forward to seeing her ads.

If you know where you can find the SYKES label in your area…
pls. post a comment.

It’s normal, as as we age our sexual driving force does diminish
somewhat in both men and women. And while we navigate the
emotional and physical challenges of marriage and relationships…
there is one genuine solution:

Emotional Intimacy…the glue that binds!

This emotional bonding withstands all, even when you think
you’re beyond physical attraction and sexual satisfaction.

The 5 Pillars of Emotional Intimacy:

#1: LISTEN
Really listen…don’t just brush off the words of conversation. Perhaps your partner is looking for
a hug or compassion. If you listen deeply, you tap into the hidden feelings behind the words.

#2: BE CONSIDERATE
Just be nice! Show respect for each other. Interesting about men: when they think their partner
isn’t nice to them, they sometimes go to another woman who they think is ‘nice.’
Women, however, react differently. We shut down, and put-up! Women generally become

depressed and secluded.

#3: APPRECIATION
Never underestimate the power of saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. Think of all the ways you
really appreciate your lover. Remember, what you give…you get!

#4: COMPROMISE
A relationship does not thrive on dominance. Compromise means balance! When you achieve
this, you’ll enjoy a life of living and loving.

#5: DREAM ON
Support each other’s dreams. Especially for women over 50: dreams fuel passion and desire.
Don’t hold each other back. Go back to school, build an ecology safe house, take up a hobbie
…chase that rainbow! Don’t give up your dreams.

Without EMOTIONAL INTIMACY, relationships fall apart and you could be destined to
enduring your remaining years with regret and loneliness.
Emotional Intimacy is the glue that binds and puts the fire in your passion and sexual desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Incorporate ALL 5 Pillars of Emotional Intimacy into your daily life.
*Note how your effort changes the dynamic of your marriage and your own attitude.
*Expect your partner to reciprocate. If not…then it’s time to have a serious talk.

This caught my eye and made me crazy!
The headline on the cover, “ARE YOU DRESSING YOUR AGE?”

(This is refers to a story inside MORE magazine-October 2009 issue.)

And the woman in this story is Barbara Newman, 55, who is transformed by the famous
Tim Gunn from her vibrant, energetic look into an older-looking lady in high heels. And
this is why I must write to you…

As you may know, I’ve been in the fashion industry for over 33yrs. Within this time, I’ve
seen women come to own their own individual fashion space. And I’m proud to say I
helped spearhead this along. You see, in the late seventies I coined the phrase,
‘Dressing for Lifestyle and NOT Age!’

Frankly, I thought Barbara Newman(p.48) looked great in her BEFORE outfit
(except for her bag.) I’m a little jealous because this ‘before look’ is the way I would dress…
if I had the body! I don’t, so I won’t.

I find this article ridiculous. And the fact(p.52) she’s wearing sandals which look to
be minimum 3″ heel height is laughable. And why? Here’s the caption, “A heel that’s
comfortable, fun and stylish”. I disagree, unless you just sit and don’t walk.

Shoes are my expertise and fit for comfort and lifestyle are primary

elements for selecting the right style for you! I personally cannot wear high heels…
so I’m sensitive to this issue.

NOTE: my Mother was a petite, cute, little lady with great legs. The gene pool missed me
in this regard. Mom wore leggings with blazers and/or long sweaters, blouses(with flats)
until she was 88. She looked fantastic, and was ‘fashion-comfortable’…her low-heeled
shoes helped her walk easy and looked good capping off her great legs!

(I wonder if Tim Gunn would put her into a dowdy, granny dress with a shawl.)

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*What is your Lifestyle-Look?
If you don’t have one, then think about how to dress to fit your personality and lifestyle.

*Look at your stockpile of clothes and accessories.
You may need to ‘detox your closet’.

*Take a good look at your shoes / try them on for the following reasons:
If they’re not comfortable…disgard!
Analyze if they work with your lifestyle.

*When you buy new shoes:
if they’re not comfortable in the store, then DON’T BUY!
Don’t get hypnotized by a bargain price, or wishful thinking that your feet will shrink.
It is a fallacy that shoes will loosen after wearing. Don’t waste your money or your feet.

So, do YOU dress for your Age, or Your Lifestyle?
Frankly, I don’t know how to dress for age, unless you’re a newborn.

But this article convinces me to take a long look at my clothes.
I need to do some purging.

PS: Dressing for your age has nothing to do with ANYTHING!
It’s your personality, attitude and genuine passion that makes a woman
GLOW…at any age. Our clothing(decoration) only adds to our persona and makes a
statement on how we live and feel in that moment. Our AGE isn’t even in the equation.
So, Love Your MAGNIFICENCE!

Do you have thoughts to share?
Pls comment…

But if you or your partner, or both…have been conditioned
to expect climax and orgasm, then no wonder you’re not
coming to grips with the tender mysteries and adventure
of the journey.

So you think having an orgasm is required…like passing
a test? Let’s be sensible:
*The magazine tells us we should have sex several times per week.
*In fact, if we don’t crave sex…we’re no longer sexy(they say).
*We should be salacious and wanton. Go look it up…I did!

Making love is not an Olympic feat. There’s no time limit, no rules,
and no winner!

Obviously something happens after the early formative years and NOW! We develop
a competitive nature, and the need to perform as in our youth. Or at least live up to
what we think is expected. But why do we take this thinking into our bed, into our
relationships, into our most passionate moments?

This only leads to judgement of our partner and mostly ourselves…if we’re the one not
reaching orgasm. Lots of heartache ahead if you don’t lighten up to think and act in
a more loving way.

THE SOLUTION:
Just be considerate and enjoy pleasing each other. And if one goes to orgasm
and the other doesn’t, why should it matter? Don’t let this special time together evolve
into a sport, a game…with a tally at the end.

Remember, it’s not about winning.
Making love is about sharing, feeling, and enjoying
the magical moments together.

Do you agree?
Pass it along…