It’s life is a metaphor that can be a lesson for us women over 50.

You see, after hatching, the young Cicada buries itself in the ground. After several years,
at the right time, they all emerge(quite large)… one by one. In the park this morning, I
couldn’t help but see the holes in the earth, with vacant, crunchy shells along the side.

After all these years in the earth, this large insect emerges, sheds it’s old life and greets
the world as a  youthful, flying bug with bulging, shiny black eyes. AND starts the song:
the mating song.

Well, what have you done to emerge yourself…
from our cultural expectations of aging…
and become the Magnificent Woman that has been buried within?

NOW’S THE TIME TO ANALYZE AND REVISE:

DIETING: perhaps it’s not a diet to lose weight, even though that can be a nice bonus,
but a diet for health. Eating for your skin, hair, eyes, heart, mind, and that healthy
coloring in your face. Treat yourself to fruits, and veggies / pass on the chips.

EXERCISE: not only is exercise good for weight control, but look at the other benefits.
Walking for only 30 minutes per day is equally good for stress and the mind. Don’t fill
your head with negative chatter, use this time for clearing your mind… get in the zone
and just walk and breathe, walk and breathe.

ATTITUDE: a negative attitude trumps hair and skin as the #1 indicator of getting older.
Believe me, I know how easy it is to let all the little, insignificant things become a huge
boulder we’re carrying around our neck. Come on, lighten up a little! Thing before
speaking… learn to smile… and be nice. BE NICE! Works wonders.

So, if you want to restore your passion and desire, then start a renewal.
You’ll notice a little spring in your step, and you’ll start the day with a new outlook.
AND, let in the joy… you’ll be glad you did!

Pls. comment and share what you’re doing for your RENEWAL!

I’ve asked several men and women the following question:
“What factor in a woman’s appearance is the indicator of her true age?”

Several points mentioned:
*Hair / old style, thin, helmet head
*Wrinkles! Trying to cover up with a lot of makeup.
*Poor posture / humped over.
*Matronly figure.

SHOCK!!
Here is the overwhelming answer you all need to know:

ATTITUDE!!

Yes, attitude was mentioned 50% of the time.

The meaning:
*Negative thinking
*Grouchy
*Always right / not giving others an opinion
*Dominating
*Always ‘blasting’ other people

Need I go on?
Now, let’s take a look within and without.
How do we appear to others, and what do we do by our actions
that is the telltale sign that we’re amongst the aging.

Imagine: changing our attitude is better than a facial!

What do you think?

Even thinking about kissing turns us on! Proof: reading a romance novel or watching
a ‘chick flick’.  We’re there, and we FEEL IT!

So, let’s talk about Taking Care Of Lips…
ESPECIALLY for Women Over 50:

*As we age, our lip line seems to get more faint… every day! So to prevent the
‘Lips Without Margins’ look, most of us need to use lipliner (me included).
*Are you using the same shade of lipstick as you did, 10 or 20 years ago?
Maybe you should try a new shade.
*AND how recently did you whiten your teeth? Yellow teeth makes our smile look dirty!
You don’t need a $500 visit to the dentist. Most dentists sell  professional whitening
strips. They’re a little more than the drugstore kind… but the results are amazing!
*Most important: use a daily wrinkle cream on your lips and surrounding area.
*AND, we sure don’t want to see our lipstick bleed into the cracks around out mouth!
Try a no-bleed lipstick cream or liner.

SOLUTION: Run, don’t walk, to your nearest cosmetic counter and try… try… TRY!
Try on all that you can. The gals working at each counter are professional and they
know the how to help you. Ask questions and take your time.

By the way: women have been coloring their lips for centuries!
WHY? To draw attention to one of the most sensual parts of our body.

Let’s start a fact-finding trail:
Pls. comment and let us know what works best for you.
We can learn from each other!

Many Blissful Wishes,
Rebecca
PS: EXTRA TIP
Using lipstick colors in purple/blue  shade make your teeth appear whiter!
Stay away from shades in the brown/yellow color. Try, and you’ll see.

Are you applying the same makeup you’ve used for 20 years?
Same hairstyle… same clothing styles?

Let’s start with makeup: as we age, there’s one thing we should never use…FACE POWDER! Why?
The fine powder may camouflage discoloration in your face, but it also clings to the lines and wrinkles,
especially in the laugh lines around your eyes and mouth.

This makes the finer lines look like crack in the sidewalk. And the deeper lines look like the
Grand Canyon! Using face powder after 50 is the easy way to appear older than you really are.

HERE’S WHAT TO DO:

*After applying your face powder, look in the mirror… then smile! What do you see?
*Better yet, move closer to the mirror… suprised? Imagine, this is how you look to anyone who gets
close… a snuggle maybe?
*With all the cosmetic counters available… take some time and let the pros show you alternatives
to face powder. Yes, they will want to sell you something. But when you discuss your concerns, then
they will do their best to make a happy customer, and show you their expertise.  And remember,
you don’t need to buy… at least not in that moment.

My Recommendation:
Make an appointment at a cosmetic counter. Tell them you want a daytime look or an evening look.
THEN… capture the comments from friends and family. And notice how your self-confidence gets
a boost.

And let us know your thoughts by adding a post to this blog.
We can learn from each other!

FYI: this is the first in a series: “A LESSON IN CREATING YOUR LOOK”

Well, if you truly are not enjoying yourself and not looking forward to the coming year…
then it’s time to invent your own TRADITION! And since it’s customary for women to run
around doing for others, then treat yourself and make this truly a tradition just for you alone.

*So what makes you feel good… puts spring in your step? Do it!
*Get a gift for yourself / wrap it up to open on a certain day at a certain time.
*Gather blankets, towels, food and toys to take to a ‘no-kill’ shelter in your city.
If you stay and play… you might just take a fuzzy little fellow home with you!
*Wrap yourself in love and passion… the best gift to give to yourself.

My personal tradition: get new pajamas for Christmas Eve, go to bed with hot cocoa
and a movie. That’s it! And if we have guests to spend the night, then we ALL get new
pajamas, and enjoy our hot cocoa together to ‘A Christmas Story.’

For those of you who celebrate Christmas… Merry Christmas to All!
And for those of you who have other holidays and traditions to celebrate,
let’s all join together in spirit and wish all a most glorious holiday season
and peace on earth!

… Rebecca

*Whip up a decadent mug of hot cocoa.
*Enjoy this treat as a celebration of sensual taste and the simple seduction of  yourself.
*Especially whip up this delight for a lover’s tryst: just quiet time together.

This wintertime favorite increases blood flow to all parts of your body. AND, can
be a definite ‘Libido Booster’!

How To Make A Chocolate Lover’s Cocoa Delight:
*DON’T use artificial chocolate, like the goo we drip onto ice cream.
*DO use real cocoa. You may find at your supermarket. Or go to specialty gourmet food
shops. Or search the internet. It’s worth it and so are YOU!
*If you want to cut calories(just a little) you can use ‘lite’ milk, or you can use the heavy
milk… just cut with a little water. However, follow the directions on the box.
*Top off with small, organic marshmallows… and a small, thin, candy cane. Or, get
inventive: a mint leaf, or add a few spirits! You could invent your own specialty.

Bliss Note: make this a special project and do some research. It’s important to get the
best cocoa for your taste. If you’ve never had the ‘real stuff’, then this is truly a treat.
Even the anticipation of making something so special and decadent as a mug of this
cocoa delicacy is arousing in itself.

TRY IT! And tell us if the aphrodisiac afficionados are correct:
Sipping Hot Cocoa DOES  Boost Your Libido!
CHEERS!

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy
and hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect: Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your
’steamy, sexy and stimulating’ self to the supermarket… just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual and how that translates into
passion and desire:

FACT: Being sensual means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’ Your senses being:
Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch, and Smell. And when you’re experiencing your senses,
then for some reason… you have an indescribable GLOW! This has been explained
as a ‘love magnet.’

You don’t believe me? When you’re all enthusiastic about something like a hobby or
your pet, relive how you feel and act when you’re in the flow of that experience.

This is what you do: You smile, talk excitedly, your eyes generally get larger as you’re
talking, you might gesture with your hands.

This is what SENSUAL is, and it’s true: when you learn how to tap into your sensual side
on a recurring basis… sure enough your passion and desire increased and feeling
sexy is the outcome.

For me, it’s color, fabrics, design, decorating, connecting with people. My first choice
of a sensual place to be is a fabric store!

*So, what brings out your sensual side?
Pls. comment and tell us.

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy and
hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy, stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect:
Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your ’steamy, sexy, and stimulating’ self to
the supermarket just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual
and how that translates into passion & desire.

FACT:
*BEING SENSUAL means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’
Your senses being: SOUND, SIGHT, TASTE, TOUCH and SMELL.

For a woman, this pretty much says it all. We ARE the sensual sex and ARE in one
with Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch and Smell. Also, note: you don’t hear of a man referred
to as being sensual. As I like to do, let’s take shoes as an example: notice women in a
shoe department and then notice a man. Totally different approach. So what about the
differences in the senses involved?

Women love the colors, design, and materials. Further…we twist, turn and prance just to
feel the shoe and see how it looks on our foot. This is definitely a sensual
experience for women.

What does this have to do with our passion and desire?

FACT:
*When we wear this shoe, our mind and our fantasy changes according to how we
perceive ourselves in this shoe.
*A fashionable, sexy-looking shoe… makes us feel sexy.
*A sporty, comfort shoe makes us feel athletic, sporty… but maybe not so sexy.

THEY SAY: women are mysterious and difficult to understand.
But when you unleash your sensual side just with a shoe, then you can easily see how you
can go from feeling sexy to feeling athletic. So by this simple example, you can see how
your senses can lead you into passion and desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*When you wear different shoes and clothes, pay attention to your changed attitude.
*Depending on your look, how do you feel or act?

Ladies: being sensual is about the way you feel… NOT about positions.
That’s for later!

Here’s an example of how this works:

‘Seducing Yourself’ is ‘taking yourself away…away from the mundane…away from your
current situation into a sensual fantasy…in your ‘Mind’s Playground.’

*A friend of mine lost her corporate job and is now working at home. She was
depressed, sickly, ate too much junk food…even passed the days calling, connecting
with placement services, worrying and crying. And worse: she didn’t even get out of
her pajamas!

THEN: she decided to get a hold of herself and came up with a plan:

*She started getting up at the same time every morning, showered and dressed as if she
were reporting to a management job. She stopped doing laundry and cleaning house
during the day (in between making calls and working.)

*Since then (it took about 2 weeks)…she’s happier with a whole new attitude,
confident in attending networking functions, and she expects to see some

money flowing in soon.

*AND: she says she even feels more alive and sexy!
Honestly, this is exactly what she said. Which reaffirms that feeling sexy and the
mind are really connected!

SEDUCTION: This woman transported herself from frumpy and hopeless into a
self-confident, independent woman. She thinks this corporate ‘boot out the door’ was a
blessing! Imagine!

HOW DOES THIS WORK: by going into her ‘Mind’s Playground’, she started
living her fantasy, her desire. Now, she is thinking about getting out socially and
even dating again.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
How can you ’seduce yourself’ today?
It all starts with a desire which morphs into a decision.
Go For It!

Pls. comment and tell us how you ’seduce yourself’.

First, you need to know
the true meaning of ’seduction’: taking yourself away…
‘Seduction’ does NOT have to be about SEX!
But can be the bridge to your passion and desire.

So, what can you do to ‘take  yourself away?’

*Maybe you put on your ’soft clothes’, make a great cup of coffee with real cream and
snuggle into bed to crack open that novel you’ve been pining to read.

*Seduction can be a trip to the bookstore…going to a shoe sale…taking your dog to the
dog park…treating yourself to a facial…watching your favorite movie, again.

*Or taking yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant.

When you make time to ’seduce  yourself’,
it’s like an injection of loving yourself.
And you have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another. And when you
love yourself, you become a love magnet. This is your foreplay to rev-up your passion and
desire.

So what did you do to Seduce Yourself Today?
Pay attention to your sensual feelings and open up your emotions.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Choose 2 things you can do for yourself…and enjoy.
*Watching an old movie does it for me.
OR, reading in a quiet place with a cup of tea.
The chance for quiet relaxation, taking me out of my normal routine with no noise
really changes my mood. If I get a phone call, the person on the other end always
comments on how differently I sound. No kidding!

*So, what can you do to seduce yourself?
*And notice how you feel before, during and after.

Pls. comment and let us know how you Seduce Yourself.