It’s life is a metaphor that can be a lesson for us women over 50.

You see, after hatching, the young Cicada buries itself in the ground. After several years,
at the right time, they all emerge(quite large)… one by one. In the park this morning, I
couldn’t help but see the holes in the earth, with vacant, crunchy shells along the side.

After all these years in the earth, this large insect emerges, sheds it’s old life and greets
the world as a  youthful, flying bug with bulging, shiny black eyes. AND starts the song:
the mating song.

Well, what have you done to emerge yourself…
from our cultural expectations of aging…
and become the Magnificent Woman that has been buried within?

NOW’S THE TIME TO ANALYZE AND REVISE:

DIETING: perhaps it’s not a diet to lose weight, even though that can be a nice bonus,
but a diet for health. Eating for your skin, hair, eyes, heart, mind, and that healthy
coloring in your face. Treat yourself to fruits, and veggies / pass on the chips.

EXERCISE: not only is exercise good for weight control, but look at the other benefits.
Walking for only 30 minutes per day is equally good for stress and the mind. Don’t fill
your head with negative chatter, use this time for clearing your mind… get in the zone
and just walk and breathe, walk and breathe.

ATTITUDE: a negative attitude trumps hair and skin as the #1 indicator of getting older.
Believe me, I know how easy it is to let all the little, insignificant things become a huge
boulder we’re carrying around our neck. Come on, lighten up a little! Thing before
speaking… learn to smile… and be nice. BE NICE! Works wonders.

So, if you want to restore your passion and desire, then start a renewal.
You’ll notice a little spring in your step, and you’ll start the day with a new outlook.
AND, let in the joy… you’ll be glad you did!

Pls. comment and share what you’re doing for your RENEWAL!

The meaning of the word ’sensual’ goes all the way from being ‘provocative, steamy and
hot’ to ‘arousing, sexy, stimulating.’

And then comes the disconnect:
Perhaps it’s not in your best interest to take your ’steamy, sexy, and stimulating’ self to
the supermarket just for a quart of milk!

So, let’s get to the root of what makes a woman sensual
and how that translates into passion & desire.

FACT:
*BEING SENSUAL means ‘arousing or exciting the senses.’
Your senses being: SOUND, SIGHT, TASTE, TOUCH and SMELL.

For a woman, this pretty much says it all. We ARE the sensual sex and ARE in one
with Sound, Sight, Taste, Touch and Smell. Also, note: you don’t hear of a man referred
to as being sensual. As I like to do, let’s take shoes as an example: notice women in a
shoe department and then notice a man. Totally different approach. So what about the
differences in the senses involved?

Women love the colors, design, and materials. Further…we twist, turn and prance just to
feel the shoe and see how it looks on our foot. This is definitely a sensual
experience for women.

What does this have to do with our passion and desire?

FACT:
*When we wear this shoe, our mind and our fantasy changes according to how we
perceive ourselves in this shoe.
*A fashionable, sexy-looking shoe… makes us feel sexy.
*A sporty, comfort shoe makes us feel athletic, sporty… but maybe not so sexy.

THEY SAY: women are mysterious and difficult to understand.
But when you unleash your sensual side just with a shoe, then you can easily see how you
can go from feeling sexy to feeling athletic. So by this simple example, you can see how
your senses can lead you into passion and desire.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*When you wear different shoes and clothes, pay attention to your changed attitude.
*Depending on your look, how do you feel or act?

Ladies: being sensual is about the way you feel… NOT about positions.
That’s for later!

Here’s an example of how this works:

‘Seducing Yourself’ is ‘taking yourself away…away from the mundane…away from your
current situation into a sensual fantasy…in your ‘Mind’s Playground.’

*A friend of mine lost her corporate job and is now working at home. She was
depressed, sickly, ate too much junk food…even passed the days calling, connecting
with placement services, worrying and crying. And worse: she didn’t even get out of
her pajamas!

THEN: she decided to get a hold of herself and came up with a plan:

*She started getting up at the same time every morning, showered and dressed as if she
were reporting to a management job. She stopped doing laundry and cleaning house
during the day (in between making calls and working.)

*Since then (it took about 2 weeks)…she’s happier with a whole new attitude,
confident in attending networking functions, and she expects to see some

money flowing in soon.

*AND: she says she even feels more alive and sexy!
Honestly, this is exactly what she said. Which reaffirms that feeling sexy and the
mind are really connected!

SEDUCTION: This woman transported herself from frumpy and hopeless into a
self-confident, independent woman. She thinks this corporate ‘boot out the door’ was a
blessing! Imagine!

HOW DOES THIS WORK: by going into her ‘Mind’s Playground’, she started
living her fantasy, her desire. Now, she is thinking about getting out socially and
even dating again.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
How can you ’seduce yourself’ today?
It all starts with a desire which morphs into a decision.
Go For It!

Pls. comment and tell us how you ’seduce yourself’.

First, you need to know
the true meaning of ’seduction’: taking yourself away…
‘Seduction’ does NOT have to be about SEX!
But can be the bridge to your passion and desire.

So, what can you do to ‘take  yourself away?’

*Maybe you put on your ’soft clothes’, make a great cup of coffee with real cream and
snuggle into bed to crack open that novel you’ve been pining to read.

*Seduction can be a trip to the bookstore…going to a shoe sale…taking your dog to the
dog park…treating yourself to a facial…watching your favorite movie, again.

*Or taking yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant.

When you make time to ’seduce  yourself’,
it’s like an injection of loving yourself.
And you have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another. And when you
love yourself, you become a love magnet. This is your foreplay to rev-up your passion and
desire.

So what did you do to Seduce Yourself Today?
Pay attention to your sensual feelings and open up your emotions.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Choose 2 things you can do for yourself…and enjoy.
*Watching an old movie does it for me.
OR, reading in a quiet place with a cup of tea.
The chance for quiet relaxation, taking me out of my normal routine with no noise
really changes my mood. If I get a phone call, the person on the other end always
comments on how differently I sound. No kidding!

*So, what can you do to seduce yourself?
*And notice how you feel before, during and after.

Pls. comment and let us know how you Seduce Yourself.

Our internal monologue is part of our ’self.’ We don’t
even realize we have this continual, negative conversation
going on…chatter…chatter…chatter…

Especially for Women Over 50: Pay attention! Just listen to yourself! Do
you realize what you’re doing? This negative self-talk is ruining your life!

Eliminating this self-talk can actually make you feel sexy and desired again.
You’ll develop new passions and feel in love. Sure, it’s easy to say. But, convincing
yourself this actually works, can be difficult.

The best way is by a negative self-talk example:
*Another crappy day…I’m tired already.
*Got to do 50 curnches or my fat gut will fall to my knees.
Doesn’t do any good…a waste of time.
*I look fat anyway…so who cares?
*I never follow through. No wonder I look hideous!

Here’s an example of positive self-talk:

*Well, it’s another day…got to do my crunches before coffee.
*OH, so coffe’s my reward AND a tighter gut!
*WOW! I have a little color in my cheeks…looks good.
*Doesn’t take much time…I’ll add leg lifts tomorrow.
*And I’ll download some Latin music so I can crunch to the beat!

When you nix the negative self-talk:
You’re on the receiving end of the Grandest Love of ALL:
LOVING YOURSELF!

AND when you love yourself, you’re like a magnet. Flood gates open and you’ll
attract the romance, mystery, dreams and desire that you deserve.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
*Pay attention to your internal dialogue.
*How often do you catch yourself internalizing negative talk, about yourself?
*Each time, turn your negative self-talk into a positive statement.
*Negative self-talk is like a bad habit. STOP IT!

I’m using Ingrid’s photo to make a point. Something we all
can relate to: Our Eyes Have Feeling!

When looking at a picture of Ingrid, I immediately make the
‘aawww’ sound and feel all warm and cuddly. It’s just like
Ingrid is right next to me. And then I think of her cold, wet
nose / how she waits anxiously by my refrigerator door for
a dollop of yogurt / the warmth of her big ol’ head resting on my lap. I’m even smiling
as I write this for you. (I can even smell her, but I won’t go further.)

How do you feel when you see your baby(your pet), or grandchild, OR when you
see a photo of someone or something you don’t like at all? I call this ‘eye touch’.
Our emotions immediately come to the surface…both good or bad, loving or disgusting
and all other feelings in between.

We don’t just SEE with our eyes.

We FEEL with our eyes.
And this is why the long gaze of flirting can be playfully romantic or a
sexual overture.

Isn’t our sensual side pretty incredible?
Let your feelings flow…the good ones.
And ‘yes’, experiencing your senses = feelings and emotion, leading to
your passion and desire.

STOP right now!
Look at a photo…how do you feel?
Continue to explore your ‘eye touch’ and unlock your emotions.
If you journal: make note of your feelings when you see
*Different colors
*Your Mother
*Yourself in the morning
*Your lover
*Romantic picture
*A piece of cake
*keep on going…