I’ve asked several men and women the following question:
“What factor in a woman’s appearance is the indicator of her true age?”

Several points mentioned:
*Hair / old style, thin, helmet head
*Wrinkles! Trying to cover up with a lot of makeup.
*Poor posture / humped over.
*Matronly figure.

SHOCK!!
Here is the overwhelming answer you all need to know:

ATTITUDE!!

Yes, attitude was mentioned 50% of the time.

The meaning:
*Negative thinking
*Grouchy
*Always right / not giving others an opinion
*Dominating
*Always ‘blasting’ other people

Need I go on?
Now, let’s take a look within and without.
How do we appear to others, and what do we do by our actions
that is the telltale sign that we’re amongst the aging.

Imagine: changing our attitude is better than a facial!

What do you think?

Well, if you truly are not enjoying yourself and not looking forward to the coming year…
then it’s time to invent your own TRADITION! And since it’s customary for women to run
around doing for others, then treat yourself and make this truly a tradition just for you alone.

*So what makes you feel good… puts spring in your step? Do it!
*Get a gift for yourself / wrap it up to open on a certain day at a certain time.
*Gather blankets, towels, food and toys to take to a ‘no-kill’ shelter in your city.
If you stay and play… you might just take a fuzzy little fellow home with you!
*Wrap yourself in love and passion… the best gift to give to yourself.

My personal tradition: get new pajamas for Christmas Eve, go to bed with hot cocoa
and a movie. That’s it! And if we have guests to spend the night, then we ALL get new
pajamas, and enjoy our hot cocoa together to ‘A Christmas Story.’

For those of you who celebrate Christmas… Merry Christmas to All!
And for those of you who have other holidays and traditions to celebrate,
let’s all join together in spirit and wish all a most glorious holiday season
and peace on earth!

… Rebecca

First, you need to know
the true meaning of ’seduction’: taking yourself away…
‘Seduction’ does NOT have to be about SEX!
But can be the bridge to your passion and desire.

So, what can you do to ‘take  yourself away?’

*Maybe you put on your ’soft clothes’, make a great cup of coffee with real cream and
snuggle into bed to crack open that novel you’ve been pining to read.

*Seduction can be a trip to the bookstore…going to a shoe sale…taking your dog to the
dog park…treating yourself to a facial…watching your favorite movie, again.

*Or taking yourself on a date to your favorite restaurant.

When you make time to ’seduce  yourself’,
it’s like an injection of loving yourself.
And you have to love yourself first, before you can truly love another. And when you
love yourself, you become a love magnet. This is your foreplay to rev-up your passion and
desire.

So what did you do to Seduce Yourself Today?
Pay attention to your sensual feelings and open up your emotions.

Sensual Bliss Action Challenge:
*Choose 2 things you can do for yourself…and enjoy.
*Watching an old movie does it for me.
OR, reading in a quiet place with a cup of tea.
The chance for quiet relaxation, taking me out of my normal routine with no noise
really changes my mood. If I get a phone call, the person on the other end always
comments on how differently I sound. No kidding!

*So, what can you do to seduce yourself?
*And notice how you feel before, during and after.

Pls. comment and let us know how you Seduce Yourself.

But if you or your partner, or both…have been conditioned
to expect climax and orgasm, then no wonder you’re not
coming to grips with the tender mysteries and adventure
of the journey.

So you think having an orgasm is required…like passing
a test? Let’s be sensible:
*The magazine tells us we should have sex several times per week.
*In fact, if we don’t crave sex…we’re no longer sexy(they say).
*We should be salacious and wanton. Go look it up…I did!

Making love is not an Olympic feat. There’s no time limit, no rules,
and no winner!

Obviously something happens after the early formative years and NOW! We develop
a competitive nature, and the need to perform as in our youth. Or at least live up to
what we think is expected. But why do we take this thinking into our bed, into our
relationships, into our most passionate moments?

This only leads to judgement of our partner and mostly ourselves…if we’re the one not
reaching orgasm. Lots of heartache ahead if you don’t lighten up to think and act in
a more loving way.

THE SOLUTION:
Just be considerate and enjoy pleasing each other. And if one goes to orgasm
and the other doesn’t, why should it matter? Don’t let this special time together evolve
into a sport, a game…with a tally at the end.

Remember, it’s not about winning.
Making love is about sharing, feeling, and enjoying
the magical moments together.

Do you agree?
Pass it along…

Our internal monologue is part of our ’self.’ We don’t
even realize we have this continual, negative conversation
going on…chatter…chatter…chatter…

Especially for Women Over 50: Pay attention! Just listen to yourself! Do
you realize what you’re doing? This negative self-talk is ruining your life!

Eliminating this self-talk can actually make you feel sexy and desired again.
You’ll develop new passions and feel in love. Sure, it’s easy to say. But, convincing
yourself this actually works, can be difficult.

The best way is by a negative self-talk example:
*Another crappy day…I’m tired already.
*Got to do 50 curnches or my fat gut will fall to my knees.
Doesn’t do any good…a waste of time.
*I look fat anyway…so who cares?
*I never follow through. No wonder I look hideous!

Here’s an example of positive self-talk:

*Well, it’s another day…got to do my crunches before coffee.
*OH, so coffe’s my reward AND a tighter gut!
*WOW! I have a little color in my cheeks…looks good.
*Doesn’t take much time…I’ll add leg lifts tomorrow.
*And I’ll download some Latin music so I can crunch to the beat!

When you nix the negative self-talk:
You’re on the receiving end of the Grandest Love of ALL:
LOVING YOURSELF!

AND when you love yourself, you’re like a magnet. Flood gates open and you’ll
attract the romance, mystery, dreams and desire that you deserve.

SENSUAL BLISS ACTION CHALLENGE:
*Pay attention to your internal dialogue.
*How often do you catch yourself internalizing negative talk, about yourself?
*Each time, turn your negative self-talk into a positive statement.
*Negative self-talk is like a bad habit. STOP IT!